have an incredibly depressing confession to make: I’ve started preparing myself
for winter. I can’t even believe I just typed that sentence, but it’s true.
winter was a doozy and the know-it-alls that put together the Farmer’s Almanac
are saying that this year will be just as delightful. I don’t want to be caught
by surprise this time around, so I’ve been forcing myself to prepare for the
torture that is to come.
recently made a trip down to my basement storage unit and visited my winter
coat. There she was in her little plastic storage box waiting for me. I could
have sworn that I saw her giggle as I pulled her out of her summer home and
reluctantly put her back in my closet.
sounds awful, doesn’t it? It gets worse. Once my coat was back I went into
winter preparation overdrive. I put away my shorts, packed up my flip-flops and
retired my straw hat.
of that depression inspired me to try thinking positively about this change of
seasons. I know we’re not there yet, but why not start trying to have something
to look forward to this winter?
food obsessed, so naturally I turned to my kitchen for sunnier thoughts. You
know what I realized? I miss grilled cheese and tomato soup. But not just any
old tomato soup, I miss Ina Garten’s fancy Pappa
Al Pomodoro. What could be more comforting than a tomato soup recipe that
has bread in it? Not much …
1/2 cup good olive oil
2 cups chopped yellow onion (2 onions)
1 cup medium-diced carrots, unpeeled (3 carrots)
1 fennel bulb, trimmed, cored, and medium-diced (1 1/2 cups)
4 teaspoons minced garlic (4 cloves)
3 cups (1-inch) diced ciabatta cubes, crusts removed
2 (28-ounce) cans good Italian plum tomatoes
4 cups chicken stock, preferably homemade
1/2 cup dry red wine
1 cup chopped fresh basil leaves
Kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper
1/2 cup freshly grated Parmesan
Heat the oil in a large stockpot over medium heat.
Add the onions, carrots, fennel, and garlic and cook over medium-low heat for
10 minutes, until tender. Add the ciabatta cubes and cook for 5 more minutes.
Place the tomatoes in the bowl of a food processor fitted with the steel blade
and process just until coarsely chopped. Add the tomatoes to the pot along with
the chicken stock, red wine, basil, 1 tablespoon salt, and 1 1/2 teaspoons
pepper. Bring the soup to a boil, lower the heat, and allow to simmer, partially
covered, for 45 minutes.
Well, one thing has stayed consistent at Soldier Field – the Chicago
Blackhawks have still won more games on the lakefront in 2014 than the
The Bears’ inconsistent season continued as expected (or not) on Sunday
with a pitiful 27-14 loss at home to the Dolphins. The Bears are 0-3 and minus 7
in the turnover battle at home this season, and 3-4 overall.
It was an overall lackluster effort on offense. For a group full of
offensive weapons and firepower, it’s amazing to watch them consistently play
with no urgency. They look relaxed out there, like they can just depend on
their talent and assume everything else will just work out. Hell, we knew the
defense wouldn’t be great this year, but at least they play with passion out
there! I’d much rather watch a less talented group play with fire under their
asses than a talented group play like they don’t need it – and that is exactly
what the Bears have looked like on offense on multiple occasions this season.
Maybe we are starting to see that there is a reason Marc Trestman never got
a head coaching job till now – like Thibs for the Bulls, sure he’s talented,
but he’s close-minded. Yeah,
Trestman is smart – the “Quarterback Whisperer,” maybe, but it seems he just
can’t get it done, not as a head coach anyway. His game plans seem unprepared,
he fails to make in-game adjustments, and he plays it safe, often to the Bears’
I’ve asked all year for this team to define themselves, to create and
harness an identity. But the truth is, this is who this team is – a
middle-of-the-road, underachieving, .500 team. They’ll continue to give us
false hope in certain games they aren’t supposed to win, (I’m predicting a win
next week at New England) and let us down in easy ones like they have against
Buffalo, Carolina and Miami.
They aren’t who we thought they were.
My dogs Ozzie and Zorro. I cannot lie – they are adorable.
This weekend, we will read Noach, a Torah portion that is very dear to my
heart because of its emphasis on animals. The people in the world became evil
and G-d wanted to start anew, so he flooded the
world leaving only Noah, his family, and two animals from each species (male
and female) alive. More animals were saved than people because animals, unlike
humans, can’t lie.
evil. They might be animalistic when they are hungry, but animals just want to
love and be loved.
I post articles about animals on my Facebook page every Sunday. Each post is called
#AnimalSundays, and every article discusses the topic of animals receiving
acupuncture. I have posted articles about a lion, elephant, dog, cat, camel,
penguin, and even a komodo dragon receiving acupuncture. All of these animals
get acupuncture regularly and are truly benefiting from each treatment. The
lion was able to walk around without foot pain, the dogs and cats are living
better lives with less pain, and the camel is living a longer life –
all due to acupuncture.
But what’s most important is that these animals can’t lie about the results. They don’t feel better because someone told them
they were going to feel better. They feel better because acupuncture works.
There are a lot of skeptics out there when
it comes to acupuncture and I understand why. It’s because acupuncture is different. It’s because all we were taught our entire lives was Western science. In high
school, we take biology, chemistry, and physics, not channel theory and
acupuncture point location. It is very hard to think outside the box when we
are taught one way our entire life. However, it is important to understand that
biology, chemistry, and physics are all part of Chinese medicine too. We use
biology to map out the human body and make sure that the channels flow
correctly with their associated organ. Chemistry is used to examine Chinese
herbs and figure out how they can help the body. Most importantly, we use
physics to understand how our bodies should act in nature. Chinese medicine is also science; it is
just viewed differently.
I often hear people say that they don’t believe in Chinese medicine or Western
medicine. There is nothing to believe in; there is nothing mythical or
spiritual about either medicine. Both medicines help people. Chinese medicine
has helped thousands of people and animals for over 4,000 years. Western
medicine is newer, but it has cured diseases and saved lives. We need both
types of medicines to truly understand the human and animal bodies because we can help people with both
types of medicines.
I am so happy G-d
decided to save all the animals. They are adorable, loving, and sweet. My dogs will always tell me when they
are happy, sad, or sick. As soon as they feel better, they get up and start
running around again. They don’t
milk or fake pain as
a way to get what they want. Thankfully, that
honesty helps prove the effectiveness of Chinese medicine.
As I inch further into 5775, my thoughts focus on relationships.
Specifically, how I connect to my family, friends, my Creator, and myself.
Most will agree that it's way easier to make connections with
others in today’s age. It's as easy as the swiping of a finger or the click of
a button to link, friend, and follow someone. It's a way to connect. It's
not how our parents did it, but it counts.
This ease of connecting is probably an attractive advantage to
social network relationships. If you don't reach out and make an effort, that's
ok because effort isn't expected. A simple "like" or "favorite"
speaks digital volumes. It's a very low-maintenance situation and we need that
once in a while. However, applying that minimal effort into other relationships
The strength of any connection is really based on the
effort exerted. I know from experience. There are times when I don't put
as much effort as necessary into those that I love and the connection ends up
becoming a barrier. Then – and this is the crazy part – I end up using twice as
much energy to break down the barrier just to start over again with building
As we take our first steps into a new, fresh, and happy year, I
hope that we are able to strengthen the connections that mean the most to us.
So it’s fall. And everything is wonderful.
You are wearing cute fashion boots and your lips are not yet cracked and
bleeding from wind. You want to eat something cozy, but not insanely heavy like
all of the casseroles and potato/cheese/cream-based dishes that are waiting for
you right around the corner in winter vortex land. It needs to be hearty, but
it also should be bright, relatively healthy, and it should include maximum condiment
Here it is! It’s soup, which means it’s
autumnal, but it’s squash without being orange. Never heard of chayote squash
before? You’ve seen them. They look like little old green men hiding out in the
produce section at the market. And they are delicious. And bonus, you don’t
have to skin them like you do with other (totally over-played in my opinion)
winter squash. Just make sure to remove the core!
Chayote squash have a core that must be removed before you add them to the soup.
And the pepitas (aka, pumpkin seeds), well
those are the crunch-factor that all good soups need, and they are also a
playful take on using squash in two ways. Clever, right? I thought so too.
Soup with Spiced Pepitas
Vegetarian (but easily made vegan)
1 large yellow onion, chopped
2 large carrots, peeled and chopped
6 cloves of fresh garlic, chopped
4 chayotes, core removed and chopped
1 jalapeno, chopped
3 tablespoons of salt
3 tablespoons of pepper
1 tablespoon of garlic powder
1 tablespoon of onion powder
1 tablespoon of dried oregano
2 boxes of stock (I use veggie, but chicken
would work well here too)
½ stick of butter
Optional: sour cream. fresh cilantro, and
lime wedges to garnish
Heat enough oil to coat the bottom of a large
stock pot. Throw in the onion, carrot, fresh garlic, and jalapeno and cook them
until they begin to soften. Add the chayotes, all of the seasoning, enough
stock to cover the ingredients by about an inch, and the butter. Cover the pot
and allow to boil for 10 minutes, or until the veggies are soft.
Use an immersion blender to blend the soup in
the pot until it gets totally smooth. (If you don’t have an immersion blender,
allow the soup to cool and ladle it in batches into a regular blender. Please,
for the love of God do not do this with hot soup. Third degree burns are not a
cute look. Return the blended soup to the pot).
Bring the soup back up to high temperature, use
more stock until you like the consistency, and taste it! Continue to season
with salt, pepper, butter, or spices until you love the way it taste and feels.
Garnish with sour cream, cilantro, and limes.
2 cups of pumpkin seeds
4 tablespoons of canola oil
1 tablespoon dried chili powder
2 tablespoons of salt (ONLY if the pumpkin
seeds are not pre-salted)
1 tablespoon black pepper
½ tablespoon garlic powder
Turn your oven on to 375 degrees. Pour all of
the ingredients into a bowl, mix them around until the pepitas are coated, and
throw them onto a baking tray (preferably lined with parchment paper so you
don’t have to worry about cleaning up later), and bake them for 5-7 minutes, or
until you can smell how delicious they are and see how lovely brown and toasty
they have become.
With Sukkot here, and a chill settling into the air outside, we're reminded of the warmth and peace of home, and the Jewish concept of shalom bayit—peace in the home.
But as news of domestic violence captures our attention in the media, we know not all homes are peaceful.
October marks National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and ever since the second video tape surfaced of Ray Rice knocking out his future wife, Janay Palmer, in the elevator, as well as other allegations of abuse in the National Football League, our society seems to be finally focusing on intimate partner abuse.
In a world where we glorify celebrities for how far they throw a ball on the field or how big their star power is on the stage, it's about time we take this issue seriously and call out and punish the perpetrators of abuse.
I recall my stomach turning as I watched a massive crowd of fans at a televised performance cheer and practically bow down to musician Chris Brown not long after he punched his now ex-girlfriend, singer Rihanna, in the face.
And for decades, the public has paid a hero's welcome to Mike Tyson, a convicted rapist, whose ex-wife Robin Givens has alleged spousal abuse for years. The heavyweight champion of the world slugging his wife never seemed like a fair fight.
It's easy to wag our fingers at the NFL and other celebrities, famous for the wrong reasons, and yet the Jewish community doesn't get a pass on this one. As tough as it is to admit, intimate partner abuse is an equal-opportunity offender, happening just as often in the Jewish community as elsewhere in society.
Regardless of race, religion, education, or socio-economic status, a staggering one quarter of women in this country will be in abusive relationships during their lifetime, but only a tenth of men will be abusers, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Why the discrepancy? Because the abuser does not see his or her behavior as the problem; it is the abused person's problem. Consequently, even if the relationship ends, the abusive person, often a serial abuser, continues abusive behavior with the next person he or she becomes involved with.
Jewish abuse was once hidden away, kept shrouded in darkness. Helping our community expose this secret is the mission of SHALVA—"giving voice to the unspeakable." SHALVA—which means "tranquility" in Hebrew and launched in 1986—is the oldest, independent U.S. Jewish services agency combatting domestic violence.
A beneficiary of the Federation, SHALVA aids abuse victims through advocacy, counseling, legal information, and other support services for no fee. Anyone who self-identifies with the Jewish community—even those who are not Jewish, but who have Jewish partners—may turn to SHALVA.
We're not just talking about physical abuse. Intimate partner abuse, according to Bobbie Gordon, SHALVA's director of Community Education, builds over time, but starts with controlling behavior—verbal, emotional, financial abuse, and/or isolation from family and friends. It's unlikely that the first sign of trouble between Rice and Palmer was a knockout punch in that now infamous elevator.
Why all the secrecy in our community? SHALVA says that, first, there's a positive stereotype that Jewish men make the best husbands. And in contrast, there's a negative stereotype that characterizes Jewish women as demanding and overbearing princesses. That's what makes some women hesitant to seek help, for fear of not being taken seriously. Plus, in a more tight-knit community like ours, women fear loss of privacy and confidentiality if they come forward. Some worry about creating a shonda, a scandal, if they disclose their abuse.
SHALVA not only helps victims of abuse, but it plays another key role. It empowers the Jewish community to combat intimate partner abuse through awareness, education, and prevention, teaching what healthy relationships ought to look like.
JCARES is another effort in the Federation system that educates and addresses abuse across the Jewish community. Rooted in Jewish values, the program offers a series of educational sessions for professionals and leaders to engage in conversations about abuse. JCARES also offers two other programs: Partnership for Safer Communities strives to build overall health and wellness in schools, synagogues, and camps, and Project Shield heightens awareness about child sexual abuse.
Whatever the program, we need to model healthy relationships for our kids from the time they're in diapers. Abuse is usually learned behavior-passed down through the generations-where abusers were once the abused.
If we can make our children feel empowered and loved, they will have taken the first step to peace in their own homes down the road.
Contact SHALVA at (773) 583-HOPE or email: email@example.com. SHALVA is a partner in serving our community with-and a special grant recipient of-the Jewish United Fund/Jewish Federation of Metropolitan Chicago.
To reach JCARES Partnership for Safer Communities, call Jessica Schaeffer at (847) 745-5450. JCARES is a program of the Jewish Child & Family Services and is supported by the Jewish Federation of Metropolitan Chicago, the Jewish Women's Foundation of Metropolitan Chicago, Michael Reese Health Trust, and other generous donors.
and sporting events are big moments parents don’t forget, but there are so many
little things you want to remember too. With another child about to join the
Krit clan, I wanted to share a few of my favorite Henry moments.
Henry has a girlfriend.
They have been together for a year, and it’s super cute to watch them interact.
Henry even openly talks about her as his “girlfriend,” so he’s clearly not in
the embarrassed phase, like he will be when he reads this article. When they
meet, hugs and kisses on the lips are exchanged (we’ve tried to discourage the
lip lock but it’s pretty awesome to watch). This sweet little blond-haired girl
bear hugs Henry, picks him up (no idea how) and then they smooch. Her father
jokes that one day she will carry him over the threshold.
You want your child to
speak well, you want to understand what they are saying, but when your child
takes the word “truck,” like my nephew did, and turns it into a swear word,
it’s hilarious. Henry never did that but he had a few cute speech mishaps. The
best are not exactly appropriate for a blog, but it warms my heart when he
says, “lello” for yellow and refers to superheroes as “superherlos.”
Expressions and Singing
Out of nowhere Henry
sounded Canadian and I loved it. He would turn to you and say, “Here ja go.” I
have no idea where he got that from but it always put a smile on my face and I
of course adopted the phrase myself. At many meals, he looks at the table and
his little face lights up and he says, “I love this,” even though he hasn’t
taken a bite of his food. After tasting a nasty thai chili bar once, he curled up
his nose and looked like he was about to puke, then said, “I love this,” and
declined another bite. This happens with movies he’s never seen, toys he’s yet
to play with, and exercise equipment the moment Amazon drops it off.
You have to be careful
with kid expressions. It’s like a song; after a while it molds to you and all
the sudden you are telling your coworker, “I not know,” which is not so cute
coming from an adult.
Speaking of songs,
it’s amazing how children remember lyrics. Henry comes home with a new song all
the time. Hearing a little voice carry a tune, even off-key, is priceless. The
other day I sang, “Steal My Kisses” by Ben Harper, and then I kissed Henry.
After that, he started singing it and kissing me. We were in the grocery store,
and he kept doing it – laughing, singing and smooching. I hope that lasts
another few years.
Naming his Brother
Henry has been really
excited for a sibling. When we told him that we were going to have a boy he
asked, “and then a girl?” Eventually, he decided a boy would be great, and he
informed us, “I will feed him with my muscles.”
He even named his
brother. My wife was explaining to Henry that she was reading a book of names,
to figure out what we’ll call the baby. Without much hesitation, Henry
announced, “The baby’s name is Crocodile, or Crocodile Krit.” And because Henry
has been so excited for his brother to arrive, he shared the name with his friends.
Fast forward a few weeks, and Erika is picking up Henry from school, and his
“best buddy” starts rubbing her belly and says, “You got a baby croc in there!”
We are looking forward
to Crocodile Krit, interactions between the boys, and the crazy things that pop
out of Croc’s mouth.
Sites We Like
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